Friday, 16 September 2016

A big fucking list

Tashisms: "Bourbon tastes like a hospital smells" "Miso tastes like bottom-of-the-boat-barnacles if you licked them"

Can't half tell I'm a sensory type can you? haha Honestly though it's one of the weird and wonderful things about me that I'm trying to work out. I get my sense muddled up sometimes when I'm trying to explain or differentiate between two things. Makes for some funny statements though, as if I need people to think I'm any stranger than they already do!

So I'm actually here tonight to write a list because I feel a list is necessary. I like lists. Lists are fabulous things. Go team lists! Tonight's list is:

Shit I Can Manage On My Own 

This list is a special kind of list because it's a list of things I've done and been doing for the past month since my new life living with the boys in single mother land. Things that you don't really think about except when you're suddenly responsible for all of them or something disastrous will happen (hasn't yet, doing well!). I have to say that I think I've assumed this role with great, erm, fuck lost the word, oh well, greatness!

  • Taking out the rubbish and remembering to put this bins out on bin day
  • Putting washing on every day aka staying on top of it like a fucking boss
  • Organising lawn mowing. Not doing myself of course, but arranging for a relative who happens to mow lawns to come and do them for me. 
  • Ordering groceries online or doing a shopping trip with a friend (thanks again Cass!!) when I need to do a big one and picking up bits and pieces when we need them
  • Restocking bread and milk from the corner shop two blocks away
  • Ordering pizza to the house (necessary I've discovered)
  • Defrosting dinner in the morning or putting on the slow cooker
  • Sorting all meals three times a day for the three of us, which is demanding given we all eat different things sometimes due a fussy eater and one who is tomato-intolerant 
  • Keeping the house relatively dust free and vacuumed every few days 
  • Doing the dishes every night
  • Making and getting to all appointments either on foot, by bus, or getting a lift with a friend
  • In relation to the previous one... catching the bus with the two boys wherever the hell we need to go! Coz I'm awesome, it costs $2.50 for the whole day and the bus stop is literally outside my front gate
  • Meeting up with friends and having regular play dates 
  • Getting pies and coffees and yummy stuff from the bakery around the corner, and picking up thai from the best damn thai house in texas on a Friday night. 
  • Witching hour. Yep... it's not always clock work but on the whole I think I have our routine down pat and it's working for us! I've found the key to making this work is planning and preparation and sticking to a schedule (although not rigidly) and our day to day seems to go smoothly. 
  • I've constructed flat pack furniture on my own
  • I set up all the electricals on my own
  • I've changed light bulbs on my own
  • Other stuff I've probably not included but am tackling 
I went from barely getting out, seeing anyone or doing much at all outside the house to being a woman of independence and feeling like I'm totally able to do whatever needs to be done, and to do the things I want to do. I'm paying my own rent, my own bills, and I'm in charge of my own life. As a result I'm actually feeling elated with happiness and I think that's rubbing off on the boys. I've set up our home so that it's inviting and comfortable (visiting family and friends have told me so), I've got a room I love, and I think we're gonna be ok. Sure we've still got kinks to iron out (reminds me, I need to buy an ironing board) but that will happen in time. Xx

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