Monday, 5 December 2016

The '2016 Effect'

Let me start this post off by reassuring you that I say this with the utmost love and the best of's tough love, but sometimes we need a swift quick in the nads. Consider this your spiritual arse-booting.

I am so sick of all the defeatist memes and shit on the internet right now! Ok, we know that not all of 2016 went to plan, we know some shit went down, but that's not all there was to it! The more I see memes about '2016 got me dead inside' the more I become downhearted myself. Yes 2016 can suck some camel balls, but we can't go through life with this attitude of 'oh it's nearly over, I can't wait for it to end, I want to see the back of this year' because you know all that that's doing is assuming EVERYTHING stops and ends at Dec 31st at midnight. Get real... life doesn't work like that. If life has thrown you more lemons than you have tequila for then you need to start looking at what you can do to change it or it's just going to carry on over to 2017 and we'll be whining about wanting that year to end, too, by February.

As a collective we're making it worse for each other! The more people catch on to this stream of thinking and pass it on the further it spreads. It's not doing anybody any good.

As a mother I'm reminded that 'one bad day does not a bad parent make' and sure, I struggle with that, but the same goes for this year. One bad month does not a bad year make. Speaking from my own experience it almost seems as though there was more bad than good but I survived it and here I am, alive, to tell the tale! I know some of my friends are suffering through their own hell at the moment and by no means is this post to belittle that (you know I wouldn't do that anyway), but those feelings of sadness, grief, anger, frustration, if you find them flooding over you after spilling a splash of coffee on the floor and think 'of course that would happen to me, just look at my life' when just that previous week you'd gotten bad news, is possibly indicative of depression more than a symptom of a 'bad year'. It becomes increasingly more important to distinguish between relating to a depressing but fairly accurate meme in relation to ourselves because it's relevant at the moment, and feeling consistently down, unmotivated, and sad. At this stage of the year with the increasing stressors and pressures it's so vital that we all take a moment to check in with ourselves and how we're travelling.

If you know me well you know that I'm all for the law of attraction. You attract to yourself what you put out into the universe. You get what you give. If you wake up in the morning and think 'well fuck, it's Monday, Monday's are bad, bad shit is going to happen today', then guess what, sunshine? I know it well enough to recognise when I'm being defeatist myself, and think ah yeah, that explains it. Time to do some cleansing and mental decluttering. Or make an appointment with my psychologist. Whichever. Ha! Either way I'm taking care of myself. On an off day my world and outlook can be very bleak indeed, and being bombarding with 'I give up' memes on the book of face doesn't help me at all. It's always handy to have that one hobby, friend, song, movie, whatever, that lifts your soul and can always be relied upon. Trade one thing for the other and rise instead of fall.

So if you haven't checked in with yourself now might be a good time. There really isn't the same stigma surrounding mental health as there has been in previous years, we're finally reaching a stage where talking about it openly it perfectly normal and accepted, and in many ways it generates a lot more support, so if you're feeling blue it's ok! Acknowledging it is a good place to start towards feeling better,

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